This article has nothing to do with the number that you give to those who you don't want to talk to. This is a message to all my fellas out there, because I'm starting to see that a lot of my brothers are getting a little carried away when it comes to interacting with our sisters out there. I see it all the time: A guy sees a nice looking female, and attempts to "holla" at her. The female rejects him. The guy, angered by the rejection, begins to hurl insults at the female. This whole situation makes me sick.
Dude, you're calling her a b*tch now, but just a few seconds ago, you were trying to get her number? Fellas, let me tell you what you need to brush up on, and what you need to make sure is taken care of before you even think about approaching a female. If you're tired of getting shot down when you try to holla, then listen up.
REASONS GUYS GET REJECTED BY FEMALES
1) YOUR APPROACH WAS ALL WRONG: Listen, if you are yelling at her to get her attention, then you're gonna get shot down. If you grab her by the arm to get her attention? You're gonna get shot down. If you roll up on her with some wack ass lines like you str8 out of NYC, "YO what's REALLY good, MA??") Then you're gonna get SHOT DOWN. Be original, ask her a question that you really want to know the answer to. Look at her and tell her what you are really thinking at that moment. Trust me, women can sense sincerity.
2) SHE'S ALREADY INVOLVED: Many times you are going to see a gorgeous lady, who just happens to be spoken for. There's nothing you can do about that, but some things just don't help the situation at all. "You gotta man? So, what that got to do with me?" "What, you can't have friends?" Attempting to lure her into a creep session with you is NOT going to make her leave her man right then and there to be with you. And if it does, do you REALLY wanna be bothered with her?
3)SHE WAS FRONTIN' IN FRONT OF HER FRIENDS: Ladies, admit it. When you are around your friends, things change. Now I'm not saying that this is always the case, but many times it's best to catch a woman by herself instead of approaching her with her buddies around. Ya'll have a tendency to show off around your buddies.
4)YOUR SHOES: Fellas, it's a known fact, one of the first things a woman looks at on you is your shoes. Keep your shoe game up to par, get them joints buffed, shined, or SOMETHING. If your timbs look like you had them since rappers were wearing African medallions around their neck, then you're gonna get clowned. If your sneakers look like
you've been playing soccer with a ball of dirt, then you're gonna get clowned. If your Kenneth Coles look like you've been crip walking in mud puddles, then you're gonna get clowned.
5)THE ENVIRONMENT: Sometimes, it's not you. You're just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I think some of us guys should make a conscious effort to try and figure out when it's appropriate to holla, and when it's not. If you two are in the same aisle in the grocery store, go for it. If you two are in line at the cleaners, do your thang, dawg. But if she's in the emergency room with a sick child, don't do it. If she's just been in a car accident and awaiting the police to come, leave her alone man. If she's at her
grandmother's funeral, crying her heart out...don't even think about it. Oh, don't think that dudes haven't done these things that I'm saying... Men will try to holla anytime, anyplace.
6)YOU ARE UGLY: Look, if you're just plain ugly, all I can say is get rich. Money washes away all signs of unattractiveness. Just ask Jay-Z.
7)TIMING: Sometimes, circumstances that we have no control over can ruin it for us fellas. You can be having a great day, looking and feeling like a million bucks! But if she is on her period and has been holding her doo doo for an hour in a half, then your charisma isn't going to work this time, buddy.
8)YOUR BREATH: Carry around some gum, mints, or some form of candy. Harsh breath can make a female get a restraining order against you.
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